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B & belle - Jan - March 2003 Archive |
| Subject
- I Want My Stepmother To Spank Me |
| Dear B & belle - I am
a 28 year old male but I desire to be spanked by my stepmother. I just
do not know how to go about it. I've known her since I was 11 but she has
never spanked me tho I think she would go for it. Just how could
I work into it without looking foolish or even blowing any possible chance....steve |
| B
& belle reply - |
| One thing we've learned
along the way Steve is that you sometimes need to be careful about letting
your private fantasies spill out into the harsh light of reality. When
it works it can be wonderful, but when you misjudge the situation you can
be in very deep shit indeed. Here are a few things to think about. First,
is there anyone who could be hurt by this, such as a current husband, wife
or partner ? If so, consider their feelings. Second, what makes you
think she would go for it ? Be sure it's not just wishful thinking.
Third, wouldn't it irrevocably change the nature of your long-time relationship
with her ? Balance what you might gain against what you might lose before
you make any decisions. As to breaking the ice gently if you're serious,
well ... you could let her know you have an interest in being spanked
(by showing her things you read or look at online etc).You could confide
in her that you'd love something like that to happen to you if you could
just find someone who you can trust. You could even ask her advice,
on whether she thinks a woman would want to do something like that. You'll
need to watch her reaction to what you say carefully, and allow yourself
plenty of room to retreat gracefully if it turns out you've misjudged the
situation. Good luck .. B & belle |
| Subject
- Bring on the Gimp ! |
Dear B & belle -
I have a question. I have started a relationship with a sub and her
ultimate desire is to be put into a box like the one "The Gimp" was kept
in,
in the movie Pulp Fiction.
Does anyone have experience with this? Do I make my own or are there
ones out there I can buy? Please let me know...Anonymous |
| B
& belle reply - |
| One
of our favourite movies ..:) We know several places that sell cages of
various kinds, such as 'dog cages' for crouching or kneeling slaves, but
closed boxes are less common. I'm not sure that it has to be anything special
and you could probably improvise with a regular trunk as long as its sufficiently
large to accommodate your sub in whatever degree of comfort/discomfort
you choose, has adequate ventilation (air-holes), and probably some
means of securing it so she can't just pop out for a sandwich whenever
she fancies. Being confined in a small space can be pretty scary, so you
wouldn't want to leave her unattended and she would need some kind of agreed
'safe-signal' for 'get me outta here immediately'. Clearly, if she was
in any way claustrophobic then this would be very edgey play indeed. Have
a look at Dungeon Furniture
..which is LA based and makes custom items of dungeon furniture. They may
be able to help or point you in the right direction. Otherwise if any readers
have any advice/contacts that might help, we'd be happy to pass them on
.. B & belle |
| Subject
- Genital Cigarette Burns |
| Dear B & belle - i've
been a submissive in the BDSM lifestyle since 1999, and Y/your web site
was one of the first ones recommended to me. i've used it over the
years for research and support (and of course, for the great BDSM pictures
as well!). i'm currently in a BDSM relationship. my Master smokes
cigarettes and although i don't smoke, i've discovered the satisfaction
and erotic turn-on of being His ashtray. i dutifully open my mouth wide,
extend my tongue, as He flicks His ashes onto my tongue. The taste
is bitter sweet, but not hot, as i would've expected it to be. He has also
touched His cigarette to my tits and nipples, leaving little red marks.
Once, about two months ago, He punished me by extinguishing His cigarette
against the wall of my cunt (please pardon my terminology, no disrespect
meant, but He requires me to use these slang terms, to remind me of my
purpose and function). He made sure that my cunt was wet, by making me
cum before hand. It burned, but only temporarily, and not any worse
than the wax that He has dripped on my cunt and tits. The heat only
lasted as long as the cigarette was lit, and i was left with a small red
spot, covered by a white wet scab. Since W/we both enjoy it so much,
He's done it twice since then, without any long lasting effects, and i
must admit that i love being used like that.W/we have online friends, a
Master/slave couple, that W/we may meet in the next few months. The
slave would like my Master to burn her cunt as well, but she has asked
that her cunt not be wet, and that He shove the cigarette deep inside her
cunt (i don't think that she meant on her cervix, but deep inside).
my Master, and hers, would like to know the risk of tissue damage, nerve
damage, permenant scarring of her cunt, and/or infection before He does
it. i'm in the process of researching it, and thought that
Y/you might be able to shed some insight on this. Thank Y/you in
advance for Y/your time and assistance. ~ cuntdebbie |
| B
& belle reply - |
| Hi Debbie... and thanks
for your kind words about BDSM Cafe. We aim to please (unless you're a
masochist, in which case we aim to piss you off ..:) Anyway, to get to
your question, what you're asking about sounds dangerous to us. Let's start
by saying that neither of us has any formal medical training, so take anything
said here as opinion rather than fact. BDSM play with heat or friction
often involves minor burns, either intentional or accidental. These can
be 'pleasurable' in the context of the play or, at worst, a minor inconvenience.
Things can go badly wrong however if the heat is too intense or if too
much pressure is applied in which case you can burn right through tissue.
Play involving the burning tip of a cigarette requires a delicate degree
of control. We've had a good effect, without damage, by holding it very
close to the skin, close enough to singe the fine hairs. Lightly (and momentarily)
touching the skin with the hot tip jacks up the intensity. However for
safety the person doing it needs to be able to see clearly what's happening.
We don't have any personal experience of inserting a lit cigarette deep
into a womans cunt, but our guess is that you run the risk of causing significant
tissue damage because you can't see what you're doing and can therefore
exercise little control. Now we know that some people get off on having
serious damage done to their bodies, but think about it from your Masters
point of view. Deep burns can cause shock, bleeding, scarring, and infection.
If things really went wrong, your Master could find himself on the wrong
side of a nasty law-suit or worse. We're all adults and it's not our business
to tell anyone what to do, but personally we would really give this one
a miss. If anyone has any other advice/tips though, you can let Debbie
know direct at.. ..dogpssy@yahoo.com....Take
care .. B & belle |
| Subject
- Humiliation Down Under |
| I
am a 20 year old female who likes to be submissive. I am only just starting
to go deeper into the BDSM scene and i was wondering if you could give
me some advice as to how to meet people and stuff. I get turned on by being
called names like slut,whore, bitch and other dirogitory names. Is that
wrong? I am a New Zealander and i would like to know where the BDSM organisations
are here if you know them....Anon |
| B
& belle reply |
| It
must be hard to think clearly down there in New Zealand, because everyone's
upside down and the blood rushes to your head ..:) OK .. that was silly,
but it's really nice to know that BDSM Cafe is read all over the world.
The 'name calling' you mention is a form of humiliation, and is honestly
quite common. Lots of perfectly charming and respectable ladies love to
be a 'whore' or 'slut' in bdsm play. Domination exercised through
humiliation (or praise) can be positive if it offers the person receiving
it feelings of security, self-worth, or enhances sexuality. It is only
destructive when an unscrupulous dominant finds the weaknesses and insecurities
of a submissive and then uses them to 'break' or abuse her for his own
purposes and without regard for her well-being. To answer your question
directly then, as long as you enjoy it and it leaves you feeling good,
don't worry about it, you little bitch ..:) As to making contacts in New
Zealand, you can find links to some local bdsm organisations here
...or alternatively you could try the Alt.Com bdsm personals service, which
we believe has a new Zealand category here.
Hope that helps and that you have an amazing time enjoying the most exciting
game in town .. Take Care .. B & belle |
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